Quirky and Boss Ass Bitch are Complimentary

Let’s get something straight.

I’m a total weirdo. I LOVE being a weirdo. I love it only because I spent years hating it. I love it because it took me so long to come to terms with actually enjoying who I am instead of hating how awkward I can be. I spent years hating myself and wondering why the hell I just said that totally awkward thing and still struggle with that sometimes.

I spent most of my life trying to fit in with any group of friends I could be a part of. I went through what I like to call my “My Chemical Romance” phase, where I wore only black band t shirts and pretended to hate mainstream things. Then I got tired of everyone thinking I was strange and went total opposite into my “Girly Makeup” phase. I went through periods of time where I was a theater kid, a nerdy honors kid, then when I became “pretty” I fit in with the popular kids for a minute. They were total assholes and after a year of struggling to stay on their ever changing good sides I eventually earned a new label from them and was henceforth known as “slut”.

I transferred high schools to get away from the shit storm I caused by constantly trying to fit in with different groups and was happy to join the “loveable misfit” group at my new school. Moving away to college I became a sorority girl for about five seconds before I realized most of them were miserable and made themselves feel better by looking for validation online and talking about “friends” behind their backs.

I eventually made my way into realizing that in every stage I had picked up one or two good people that I love for who they are and not what group I found them in.

It took me a while (and I’m still learning) but I realized that I could love whatever I wanted. I’m still obsessed with My Chemical Romance (please have a reunion tour!!) without wearing all black every day. I still love girly things and makeup without having to be a Cher from Clueless duplicate. I have been and always will be a theater kid, and will forever be obsessed with Broadway and performing. I am a sorority girl in that I truly believe in the importance of sisterhood and women being supportive of each other. If reading and constantly feeding my endless curiosity with all kinds of new information is nerdy- sign me up for that too. Fuck it, I’ll even proudly be what some think of as a “slut” (though I would never ever call another woman that because every person should be completely fine and comfortable with their sexuality as long as it is safe and consensual).  I am all of these things and I don’t have to be categorized into any one of them.

The label of Quirky Girl™ that I use is a satirical label that essentially means anti-label. It means “weird” and “alternative” but applies to so many people that it defeats the purpose of being alternative. I know that women being labeled as quirky is a serious problem when it is not done as a joke. If a creative and intelligent woman dares to be innovative or thought provoking she can be labeled as merely adorable or cute, as if her being different from what is expected makes her the butt of a sick joke. It’s ridiculously patronizing and women (as well as men!) deserve better. We deserve to enjoy being weird  and quirky while also still being taken seriously.

I should be able to wear a lot of polka dots and make up songs about kittens without having my intelligence questioned. There’s no reason why I, or anyone else, should not be able to be both. We should all have the chance to be a Leslie Knope! We should all be what we want to be, without having to be stereotyped into one thing. As a Quirky Girl™, I’m a total weirdo who loves being who I am and liking all of the things I like while also being a boss ass bitch who can run this shit. Quirky and adorkable is not the opposite of strength and intelligence.

As my favorite little girl in a taco commercial would say: ‘Porque no los dos?”

porque no los dos

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